Self Assessment Communication Scores
The peer perception survey scores indicated that my peers found me to be self confident, likeable, positive, friendly, helpful, open, happy, reliable, honest, organized and proactive amongst other traits. My findings were positive in all the aspects the questionnaire touched, with a majority of my friends indicating positive fines, most of which were in tandem with my own assessment of myself. Indeed my scores for being dominant stood at 0.16, indicating that very few of my friends if any, felt I was dominant. This is in line with most of the responses that found me to be accepting. In terms of being dramatic, the score stood at 0.8, with most of my scores indicating that I was a bit dramatic, in line with the highlighting of my being outgoing. The highest scores for my face to face communication style were however attentive (1.8) and friendly (1.25). The findings also indicated being relaxed as my third highest trait at 1.0 with being open scoring the least at 0. I was therefore, not a very open person, according to the findings, although this was not really consistent, as the very same findings indicated that I was a friendly person. At the same time, my peer perception responses also indicated that I was outgoing, open to change and progressive, all traits that seem to suggest that I am open. All in all however, the self assessment findings were mostly in tandem with the peer perception findings, in some cases even offering new aspects not explored in the peer perception assessment, such as relaxation, animation and drama.
The peer perception survey no doubt took more factors into account when exploring various aspects of face to face communication. All the factors explored had something to do with how my peers viewed me based on the behavior they observed compared to information they knew about me. All the responses recorded seem to suggest that my peers view me as an upright, honest, hardworking individual. At the same time, the responses seem to suggest that my peers have great respect and admiration for how I carry myself, despite the challenges I might face in my life. Further, my peers also suggest that I do have a positive effect on those that I interact with, and seemingly produce good results in my interaction with others, suggesting that I have a strong positive effect on those that I do come into contact with, to the extent that I am in a major way considered as a role model worthy of emulation.
The results indicate that I do have a high standing amongst my peers worthy of preservation. The findings also seem to indicate that individuals one interacts with normally take more factors into consideration than one would imagine. Whereas I usually carry myself out normally and fulfill responsibilities that I believe I have to, those around me usually take the positives out of how I carry myself or fulfill these responsibilities. Although there could be the possibility that some of the assessments made by my peers are biased, as they seemingly give me an overwhelming assessment, some of which borders on flattery. It is therefore, possible that perhaps some of the assessments were made in order to offer encouragement and were made subjectively due to the fact that most of the people tasked with making the assessments are people who know me quite well and are very good friends. Further, I do believe that my condition, also served to influence the results of the assessment, as a majority of my friends perhaps felt that it would be in bad taste to offer anything but positive assessments. This is possibly a complication that perhaps arose out of fear of disappointing one of their own already in a difficult situation. The results however are not all influenced by the Hawthorne effect, as the results do to a degree concur with what I hope to project to those that I interact with, as in the course of interactions, I usually try my best to ensure that I give off only positive feelings that encourage others. Considering my condition, I usually strive as hard as I can to ensure that others do not view me as a weakling. One of the responses I try hard to ensure I do not elicit from others is usually sympathy. In a way, my condition usually drives me to work even harder than I would, and treat people better, as well as behave in humble manner.
Clearly, the effort to project positive emotions as well as see the best in people has improved my communication style, as well as enabled me to have significantly positive influences on others to the point of admiration, an outcome that though not sought, is certainly welcome. In a way, due to the disadvantage that I might have, I have always perhaps unconsciously had to work a bit harder to achieve approval compared to others, hence my condition has indeed made me a better person.
The biggest factor that determines how others perceive an individual, is usually their behavior and mannerisms when it comes to interacting with others. To some extent, people also judge an individual based on how well they carry out their duties, to the extent that my peers even judge me based on how well behaved my children are, as well as how well taken care of my family is (Beebe, S.A, Beebe, S. J., & Redmond, 2011). To an extent, the others perceptions of me were not really surprising, as I have a very strong belief in myself, as well as a resolve to do well, brought about to a large extent due to my experiences dealing with my condition. The fact that the perceptions of others matched my own only serve as encouragement for further growth and a continuation with the same attitude towards life and towards others. I hope therefore, to keep an open mind, continue to help others, be a strong role model, learn from mistakes, remain open to learning new things
Beebe, S. A., Beebe, S. J., Redmond, M. V. (2011). Interpersonal communication: Relating to others (6th ed.). Boston, MA: Allyn & Bacon.
Reese, C., Ziegerer-Behnken, D., Sundar, S. S., & Kleck, C. (2007). The company you keep and he image you Project: Putting your best face forward in online social networks. Conference apers – International ommunication Association, 2007 Annual Meeting, 1.